I Dont know if that was the reason in this case but I have to agree with your ideas on this one....

warning: sweeping generalization: It seems women overcomplicate the simplest stuff....and create work for themselves...and then stress out...then expect help doing the work they created....then get frustrated that we dont help on stuff we would have never done in the first place....end up mad and ranting....

the holidays are a perfect example:

gifts HAVE to be bought for certain people ( I say: no we dont )
we HAVE to do a christmas card (I say: no we dont)
We have to bring something home made to the holiday pot luck...which will include a speical trip to the store and then agonize over what we buy and prepare...(I say: now we dont...it creates work and no one eats most of it anyway...lets just go to the store and pick up something to bring)

didnt Oprah tell us to focus on whats really important..spending time with each other and appreciating each other?.....the endless "to do's" that women create because in HAS to be done seem to get in the way of all this....

but I dont see much hope in this ever changing....

Sounds like my tenant, Dave. I was making myself some pasta (gluten free, rice based) when the contractor came by that I'd hired to fix up the window frames. I had to walk the contractor around to make sure we were on the same page about what I needed done and get the quote, so I asked Dave "keep an eye on this and turn off the stove when it's done."

I came back to overboiled noodles that were disintegrating in the water and the excuse "I don't know how to tell when rice noodles are done cooking..."

because it's sooo much different to find out if rice noodles are soft compared to regular noodles when the exact same rules apply?


Then again, this is the same lazy man that can't take the 2 seconds required when stopping to open the gate so he can park the car to also make sure the lint from the dryer at the end of the hose where it catches on the little cage thingy that keeps birds from nesting inside it hasn't clogged. That he might burn the house down around himself makes no never mind to him, it's too difficult to remember to glance over there from time to time.


I see a bunch of the visiting men have claimed that a lot of the stress and rants come from unnecessary work we create for ourselves. Not necessarily true. I argue a lot of the rants come from the men in our lives taking us and the work we do for granted.... like not being in the mood to boil water and instead waiting till the woman gets home all tired and exhausted and expecting her to boil it for him.

It didn't help that right before the holidays one of my friends told me her husband thinks diamond wedding rings represent consumerism and status and that he decided he was never getting her a ring but oh he had the time and money to go buy a Ninetendo Wii. Men in the northwest have this whole granola angle they are trying to work but I'm onto it!

how can you compare a wii to something for which there are armed conflicts all over the world, mining operations damaging the environment and so on? Good that some guys are finally starting to wise up about the whole 'diamonds are forever' thing, it would be nice if more women did the same.

That's woman's work, and just another way that women want to take away our masculinity.

My woman still has her Woman Card intact. One requirement of a Woman Card is that her man never have to do any cooking or cleaning. I can work outside in the yard, on the roof, in the basement, fixing a million things that need to be fixed around the house, painting, maintaining the cars, and paying the bills - but not cooking or cleaning (with the exception of barbequeing, or helping to clean up after a meal). That's woman's work, and just another way that women want to take away our masculinity.

Rant: WTF is up with this man card crap?

That's woman's work, and just another way that women want to take away our masculinity.