So recently someone posted a thread about “Ironman and Spouses/SO” and let me say some of the responses have left me shaking my head and more than a little pissed for these men whose wives are complete bitches when it comes to triathlon (http://forum.slowtwitch.com/...;;page=unread#unread ).....
SUPPORT your goddam spouse and don’t have a piss poor attitude doing it! What, so you think the minute you say “I do” the dynamic changes?? You got what you wanted, a wedding to show off to the world someone to call your husband and some security? Now, you can be the ultimate bitch and dictate the marriage? Ahhhh, no that is NOT how it works, but some of you men have allowed this to happen which makes you the ultimate pussy. Grow a sac and stop putting up with this bullshit.
Let me tell you something I was involved with someone who was a competitive big mountain skier, I would prance my ass to these competitions that would take places I had no business skiing, freezing my ass off and overall pretty miserable. WHY??? Because I L-O-V-E-D him and when he was finished I would say “good job, babe!” followed by a big hug and a kiss! It’s called being supportive. Same went for his motocross. I cannot tell you how much I dislike the sport, but I was there, I would go with him when he raced, I would be engaged and on occasion I would just go out to the desert with him when he did it with his friends. WHY? Because I L-O-V-E-D him!
Here’s the deal ladies, don’t support your husband because you think you’ll get something from it, like a new purse or shoes or expect him to vacuum or do the dishes because you begrudgingly went to his race. Marriage and relationships are about compromise, and not the kind of compromise that consists of “I’ll do this but you have to buy me this or do that”, that is complete bullshit! It is FAR from showing you truly support your husband and his passions, it’s called bribery and you are basically telling him you really don’t support him so might as well just tell him to “fuck-off”.
DO NOT make your husband pay a price for having a hobby outside the marriage/family, because let me tell you what is guaranteed to eventually happen, he will meet some cute tri-chick, who will innocently give him the support and encouragement he needs, you refuse to give him and he will begin to resent you with as much passion as he has for triathlon.
Get out there! I can GUARANTEE if you go into this with a positive and fun attitude you will meet some AMAZING people out there at the events. Triathlon is full of down-to-earth, very nice people, whether it be the athletes, SO/spouses of athletes, volunteers, RD’s, the entire gamut .
What if you both do Tri and have kids?
Come on people it’s not that difficult. At the end of every tri season you sit down and discuss the upcoming year, who is doing what race, etc. Are you both going to try for a Full or maybe one does a Full one does Half/Oly/Sprint distances. But you come up with a manageable plan.
What if your SO/Spouse says this is just the way it’s going to be?
I’d set that person straight. I would sit them down and have a very stern conversation about what will be happening the next year and how they left me no choice other than this, how they had every opportunity. They will come around. If they choose to continue to make you “pay” for your decision to follow your passion, I’d ask for a divorce, it’s really that simple. Because do you really want to spend the rest of my life with a person who is going to dictate the rest of my life, what you can and can’t do, FTS!!! That is not living, that is HELL!
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SUPPORT your goddam spouse and don’t have a piss poor attitude doing it! What, so you think the minute you say “I do” the dynamic changes?? You got what you wanted, a wedding to show off to the world someone to call your husband and some security? Now, you can be the ultimate bitch and dictate the marriage? Ahhhh, no that is NOT how it works, but some of you men have allowed this to happen which makes you the ultimate pussy. Grow a sac and stop putting up with this bullshit.
Let me tell you something I was involved with someone who was a competitive big mountain skier, I would prance my ass to these competitions that would take places I had no business skiing, freezing my ass off and overall pretty miserable. WHY??? Because I L-O-V-E-D him and when he was finished I would say “good job, babe!” followed by a big hug and a kiss! It’s called being supportive. Same went for his motocross. I cannot tell you how much I dislike the sport, but I was there, I would go with him when he raced, I would be engaged and on occasion I would just go out to the desert with him when he did it with his friends. WHY? Because I L-O-V-E-D him!
Here’s the deal ladies, don’t support your husband because you think you’ll get something from it, like a new purse or shoes or expect him to vacuum or do the dishes because you begrudgingly went to his race. Marriage and relationships are about compromise, and not the kind of compromise that consists of “I’ll do this but you have to buy me this or do that”, that is complete bullshit! It is FAR from showing you truly support your husband and his passions, it’s called bribery and you are basically telling him you really don’t support him so might as well just tell him to “fuck-off”.
DO NOT make your husband pay a price for having a hobby outside the marriage/family, because let me tell you what is guaranteed to eventually happen, he will meet some cute tri-chick, who will innocently give him the support and encouragement he needs, you refuse to give him and he will begin to resent you with as much passion as he has for triathlon.
Get out there! I can GUARANTEE if you go into this with a positive and fun attitude you will meet some AMAZING people out there at the events. Triathlon is full of down-to-earth, very nice people, whether it be the athletes, SO/spouses of athletes, volunteers, RD’s, the entire gamut .
What if you both do Tri and have kids?
Come on people it’s not that difficult. At the end of every tri season you sit down and discuss the upcoming year, who is doing what race, etc. Are you both going to try for a Full or maybe one does a Full one does Half/Oly/Sprint distances. But you come up with a manageable plan.
What if your SO/Spouse says this is just the way it’s going to be?
I’d set that person straight. I would sit them down and have a very stern conversation about what will be happening the next year and how they left me no choice other than this, how they had every opportunity. They will come around. If they choose to continue to make you “pay” for your decision to follow your passion, I’d ask for a divorce, it’s really that simple. Because do you really want to spend the rest of my life with a person who is going to dictate the rest of my life, what you can and can’t do, FTS!!! That is not living, that is HELL!
"Though she be but little, she is fierce" ~Shakespeare | Powered by HD Coaching | 2014 Wattie Ink Triathlon Team | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter