From what I recall reading over the years, for the most part I accept all that youâre saying (not that it matters if I do or not).
Right or wrong Iâm trying to understand their mindset beyond pure spite. If theyâve always been non-sporting then I think itâs less spite and more that theyâd rather be doing something else. I could see how it could be perceived as an extension of âher timeââ. Sometimes kids grow to love additional things upon exposure. Preferring to stay home to play sport could feel like a rejection of the person - which would hurt, depending on the person. Iâm sure thereâs compromises that could be found but understand they probably wonât ever get discussed.
Iâm glad Iâm not in that situation. My ex and I never moved on, and live 200m apart. Weve been walking dogs most mornings, spending Xmas with extended family and otherwise preoccupied with the issues with our oldest. As lonely as it feels at times, we are fortunate in many respects.
Right or wrong Iâm trying to understand their mindset beyond pure spite. If theyâve always been non-sporting then I think itâs less spite and more that theyâd rather be doing something else. I could see how it could be perceived as an extension of âher timeââ. Sometimes kids grow to love additional things upon exposure. Preferring to stay home to play sport could feel like a rejection of the person - which would hurt, depending on the person. Iâm sure thereâs compromises that could be found but understand they probably wonât ever get discussed.
Iâm glad Iâm not in that situation. My ex and I never moved on, and live 200m apart. Weve been walking dogs most mornings, spending Xmas with extended family and otherwise preoccupied with the issues with our oldest. As lonely as it feels at times, we are fortunate in many respects.